I am extremely excited to become a parent. I absolutely love babies, especially my niece and nephew. I'm actually the only girl sibling in my family that hasn't had a baby yet.. not that I'm ready or anything. I still have college to go through. I want to be able to support my child the best I can.
Most people learn to parent by how their parents parenting style is. If some children had bad parenting, usually they learn by that. They want whats best for their children.. but not all people are that way.
When I was a little girl my mom used to drive me and my brother Zach around just to get us to fall asleep. She would play music that was so soothing. That's something that I will probably use with my children also. My mom did so many different things that made her an amazing parent. She was a mother and a father to me. She is my absolute best friend, and I hope to have a daughter as my best friend like she does.
I never saw my dad when I was a little girl because of his bad decisions. I didn't really "know" my dad until I was about 15 years old when I moved in with him. These past 3 and a half years have been the closest I've ever been to my father. I'm not saying I wish I had a different dad, but I wish he could have been there for me as I was growing up. I hope to choose a guy that will stick with his child and not give up like mine did. I don't wanna make the same mistake as my mom. I will be picky about the"love of my life". I want whats best for me and mostly, my children.
Tuesday, December 10, 2013
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
Stress
Stress is overwhelming
Everyone deals with stress once or another in their lifetime. Some people don't take it as hard and some do take it hard, which can cause even MORE stress on the person. Even I get stressed out. I'm 18 years of age but have been paying my own phone bill and car insurance since I was 16 years old, along with my gas, oil, school supplies, vehicles, etc. I have a step-brother who is now turning 17 and still doesn't have to pay for his own things. Which really irritates me being as his mother doesn't have a job and my dad does. So shouldn't he be the one with a job paying for his own things just like I am? I think that would make it a whole lot easier on our family. A lot less stress too. I stress almost everyday about school, wondering if I'll graduate and make it to college or not. I graduate from school in 5 months and start college in about 8 months. Everything is just happening too fast. There is a way of calming myself down though...
Usually when I'm stressing out about something I'll go drive around and listen to my stereo. It gets my mind off of almost everything I've been stressed about. Another thing I do is cry, depending on how far my stress level has gotten, that is. Crying always feels good to me. Anyways, there's always a way of dealing with stress, reading, walking, crying, sewing, painting, etc. Plenty of different ways of coping with stress. You just have to find the most comfortable one for you!
Everyone deals with stress once or another in their lifetime. Some people don't take it as hard and some do take it hard, which can cause even MORE stress on the person. Even I get stressed out. I'm 18 years of age but have been paying my own phone bill and car insurance since I was 16 years old, along with my gas, oil, school supplies, vehicles, etc. I have a step-brother who is now turning 17 and still doesn't have to pay for his own things. Which really irritates me being as his mother doesn't have a job and my dad does. So shouldn't he be the one with a job paying for his own things just like I am? I think that would make it a whole lot easier on our family. A lot less stress too. I stress almost everyday about school, wondering if I'll graduate and make it to college or not. I graduate from school in 5 months and start college in about 8 months. Everything is just happening too fast. There is a way of calming myself down though...
Usually when I'm stressing out about something I'll go drive around and listen to my stereo. It gets my mind off of almost everything I've been stressed about. Another thing I do is cry, depending on how far my stress level has gotten, that is. Crying always feels good to me. Anyways, there's always a way of dealing with stress, reading, walking, crying, sewing, painting, etc. Plenty of different ways of coping with stress. You just have to find the most comfortable one for you!
Tuesday, November 26, 2013
Being Thankful
10 THINGS I'M THANKFUL FOR:
10- My long hair- it may be hard to take care of, but it keeps my ears warm. And it's just so beautiful!
9. Food- everyone should be thankful for food. It keeps us alive! And it's delicious :)
8. Clothes- I love clothes, I have way too much in my closet. And It's getting kind of cold outside, thank goodness for all of my warm clothes!
7. My phone- there's not other way to communicate! I love love LOVE talking to people, so if I didn't have my phone, I would be lost.Yes, people have done it before.. but that was when they had no idea what technology even was!
6. My friends- they help me when I'm feeling down and know exactly how to turn my frown upside down.
5. My house- not everyone has a clean, nice & "stable" house. I am so glad to live in the house that I do with my family!
4. My car- it takes me everywhere I need to go!
3. My dad- he fixes my car anytime there's something wrong with it and taught me how to change my own oil, check my antifreeze, oil, and power steering fluid. He taught me everything I need to know about my car.
2. My grandma- she's there for me no matter what the cause. She helped raise me as I was growing up, she's like a second mom to me. I don't know what I would do without her.
1. My momma- she brought me into this world & made me the person I am today!
10- My long hair- it may be hard to take care of, but it keeps my ears warm. And it's just so beautiful!
9. Food- everyone should be thankful for food. It keeps us alive! And it's delicious :)
8. Clothes- I love clothes, I have way too much in my closet. And It's getting kind of cold outside, thank goodness for all of my warm clothes!
7. My phone- there's not other way to communicate! I love love LOVE talking to people, so if I didn't have my phone, I would be lost.Yes, people have done it before.. but that was when they had no idea what technology even was!
6. My friends- they help me when I'm feeling down and know exactly how to turn my frown upside down.
5. My house- not everyone has a clean, nice & "stable" house. I am so glad to live in the house that I do with my family!
4. My car- it takes me everywhere I need to go!
3. My dad- he fixes my car anytime there's something wrong with it and taught me how to change my own oil, check my antifreeze, oil, and power steering fluid. He taught me everything I need to know about my car.
2. My grandma- she's there for me no matter what the cause. She helped raise me as I was growing up, she's like a second mom to me. I don't know what I would do without her.
1. My momma- she brought me into this world & made me the person I am today!
Friday, November 22, 2013
Goals
Goals are very important to set. You may not think you have any goals, but you do. Everyone has a goal in life. A goal could range anywhere from waking up in the morning trying not to forget about brushing your teeth, and even picking what college you want to attend and how far you want to go.
I'll use myself for an example:
One of my big goals in life is to graduate from college and find a stable job. I don't want to end up working in a fast food restaurant like McDonald's my whole life. That's definitely not my ideal job.. or goal in life.
Some of my smaller goals are to just wake up everyday with a smile on my face, make everyone around me happy.. including myself. If you haven't set yourself a big goal yet, don't rush it. Make sure you really want to do that.
I'll use myself for an example:
One of my big goals in life is to graduate from college and find a stable job. I don't want to end up working in a fast food restaurant like McDonald's my whole life. That's definitely not my ideal job.. or goal in life.
Some of my smaller goals are to just wake up everyday with a smile on my face, make everyone around me happy.. including myself. If you haven't set yourself a big goal yet, don't rush it. Make sure you really want to do that.
Thinking of The Future
Your marriage is heading for divorce...
-How would you settle property, custody, that kind of stuff?
If I were ever in this situation, it would depend on how old our children were. I would sit them down with their father and discuss their living situation. I don't think it would be fair to tell them how they are going to live. I want them to be comfortable with THEIR living situation. I would then discuss the property stuff with my husband.. settle it by who spent the most on what? That only seems to be fair.
Your elderly parents need to move in with you...
-What conflicts and adjustments arrive?
If my parents were ever to the point where they couldn't live on their own, I would take them into my home and care for them just as if they were my own. They took care of me my whole life when I couldn't. I don't see why I can't do the same for them?
My parents mean everything to me, so I would do whatever it took to
make them feel at home. Including being a cook, maid, and so fourth.
You are a single mother...
-How will you cope emotionally and financially?
If I were ever to be a single mom, I would be doing it for my own good and possibly my kids too. Depending on the situation, I would think my mom would be there for me most of the time. I wouldn't expect her to be, but that's just the type of person she really is. Emotionally, again, depending on the situation.. I may be a total mess. But I would never show that around my children. I would show them that I'm happy and that everything is going to be okay. We're in this together, I would tell them.
You just remarried...
-How will family discipline be handled with step-children? Chores? Space?
Depending on how often the step-children came to our home. If they lived with us full time, chores would be a definite yes. But if they lived with us only every other weekend, they are considered a guest, I would not make them do chores. I would leave it up to their father to discipline them, not me.
-How would you settle property, custody, that kind of stuff?
If I were ever in this situation, it would depend on how old our children were. I would sit them down with their father and discuss their living situation. I don't think it would be fair to tell them how they are going to live. I want them to be comfortable with THEIR living situation. I would then discuss the property stuff with my husband.. settle it by who spent the most on what? That only seems to be fair.Your elderly parents need to move in with you...
-What conflicts and adjustments arrive?
If my parents were ever to the point where they couldn't live on their own, I would take them into my home and care for them just as if they were my own. They took care of me my whole life when I couldn't. I don't see why I can't do the same for them?
My parents mean everything to me, so I would do whatever it took to
make them feel at home. Including being a cook, maid, and so fourth. You are a single mother...
-How will you cope emotionally and financially?
If I were ever to be a single mom, I would be doing it for my own good and possibly my kids too. Depending on the situation, I would think my mom would be there for me most of the time. I wouldn't expect her to be, but that's just the type of person she really is. Emotionally, again, depending on the situation.. I may be a total mess. But I would never show that around my children. I would show them that I'm happy and that everything is going to be okay. We're in this together, I would tell them.
You just remarried...
-How will family discipline be handled with step-children? Chores? Space?
Depending on how often the step-children came to our home. If they lived with us full time, chores would be a definite yes. But if they lived with us only every other weekend, they are considered a guest, I would not make them do chores. I would leave it up to their father to discipline them, not me. "Happy" before
For my Family Studies class in high school, I was asked to find a couple whom I think has a good relationship.
I chose my step-sister Jordan and her fiance Justin. They have known each other all through high school and didn't start to date until Jordan's senior year. Jordan and Justin decided to move out when Jordan graduated and just a few months ago they had my niece, Aubree Don. I think they're relationship is just perfect. They both love to hunt with a passion. Justin does anything and everything he can for Jordan. But Jordan does the same for him. I asked them what they thought the key to having a good relationship was, Jordan replied, "Being understanding and putting effort into the relationship is my ideal of a good relationship". Justin replied, "Making each other happy".
I would have to agree with the both of them. I think they are doing pretty good with their relationship. It just keeps getting better and better. I cannot wait for them to get married next year! "Happy" after
Recently in my family studies class at high school, we have been discussing the "ideal" relationship. Also discussing how to build/maintain a good relationship. There are many different ways people keep a good relationship going so I'll just go over the five steps we learned in class, using my sister and her fiance as an example.
Step 1: Strong Foundation- My sister and her fiance went to high school together just as friends, then once they got to know each other they started dating. This is definitely a strong foundation for them.
Step 2: Build Healthy Patterns- Justin works nights one week out of the whole month, the rest are days. Jordan works during the day while Aubree has a baby-sitter.
Step 3: Explore Each others interest- Jordan never used to hunt until she met Justin, now she loves it! Justin doesn't really like watching girly t.v. shows, but he watches anyway for Jordan.
Step 4: Establish a pattern of apologizing- Usually when Jordan and Justin get into an argument, they both think they're right and stick to that for about 15 min or so.. then Justin usually apologizes and says she's right. I think mainly he does that to make her happy.
Step 1: Strong Foundation- My sister and her fiance went to high school together just as friends, then once they got to know each other they started dating. This is definitely a strong foundation for them.
Step 2: Build Healthy Patterns- Justin works nights one week out of the whole month, the rest are days. Jordan works during the day while Aubree has a baby-sitter.
Step 3: Explore Each others interest- Jordan never used to hunt until she met Justin, now she loves it! Justin doesn't really like watching girly t.v. shows, but he watches anyway for Jordan.
Step 4: Establish a pattern of apologizing- Usually when Jordan and Justin get into an argument, they both think they're right and stick to that for about 15 min or so.. then Justin usually apologizes and says she's right. I think mainly he does that to make her happy.
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